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What’s your gender identity?

1. Gender identity: girl.

Brief description: I am a girl. Beginning and end of story.

Advantage: clarity of vision, identity, and one’s place in the world.

Disadvantage: if you see yourself as unambiguously female, it’s much harder to deal with misgendering and people refusing to acknowledge your femininity. It also seems to make it more painful when encountering any of the visible signs of masculinity that you may see in the mirror. In other words, being a girl sets a very high standard (which is good because I like high standards, but you better be able to live up to those standards.) 

2. Gender identity: two spirit/ bigender

Brief description: I am both male and female.

Advantage: although it may create cognitive dissonance for other people, it aligns nicely with the reality of your mind and body. You feel there’s a part of you that is female, and another part that is male. If you see yourself as bigender, you tend to be more at ease with the ambiguities of feminisation (having breasts, for example, while still having a penis.)

Disadvantage: although the term is biologically apt for your combination of male and female features, it does not have the psychological satisfaction of singularity. Tell people that you’re bigender and you get the same frosty response that bisexual men get upon stating their sexuality. People don’t handle dualism well…they like simplicity.

That’s why it’s best to wrap up a dualistic gender identity in a pretty name: the Native American ‘two-spirit.’

3. Gender identity: non-binary

Brief description: I exist beyond the gender binary, therefore, it’s not that I’m bi-gender… I’m no-gender. in fact, I don’t recognize the whole system of gender at all. (Of course, there are other formulations of this identity, but we’ll stick with my schemata for now.).

Advantage: if you don’t like the way a system operates, destroy the system or deny its validity. Conceptually, non-binary allows the trans individual to avoid all sorts of tricky questions and definitions. You can be all things to all people: have no gender, have multiple genders, or refuse to even acknowledge gender. It’s like an open field where you get to make the rules about what you wear and how people address you. 

Disadvantage: it sounds made up. 

As a species, we like to cling to biological anchors. People understand the concept of intersex and hermaphrodite, and they understand the idea of wanting to be a different gender. But it’s harder to understand an idea with no link to biological experience: not having a gender.

Furthermore, if you start insisting that people refer to you as ‘they’ it becomes invasive to their gender concept and their vocabulary. And can you imagine a client asking a call-girl “Do they want me to give them a good fucking?”

You are forcing people to modify a fundamental tenet of their everyday experience (that humans are either male or female) and change one of the most common occurring word types: pronouns.

For me, non-binary works well within transgender circles and conceptual frameworks, but doesn’t work well in the wider world.

4. Gender identity: a man with a fetish / mental illness.

Brief description: my urge to be feminine does not come from inherent femininity but from a sexual fetish (such as autogynephilia.) My desire to be a woman is an outgrowth of this fetish – leading to a mental illness called transsexualism.

Advantage: clarity. In this scenario, there’s no messing around with gender boundaries or humans in the wrong body. There’s just a disease and a fetish that created it.

Disadvantage: although I will commend your brutal honesty (and bucking of political correctness) there’s no way you’ll work for me. Obviously, in my business, I’m well aware of the transvestic and fetishstic history of many transgender girls, and… I don’t care!

What I care about is that part of your femininity that’s non sexual and based on a deep love and respect for women, and a fundamentalist conviction that you are female. Or, if I could summarize it more briefly: that you’re on our side. Female!

If you tell me you’re a man with a fetish, then you’re on their side. Male!

5. Gender identity: soul-girl.

Brief description: I know in my heart and soul that I’m a girl, but I accept the impracticality / impossibility of transition. Therefore, I’ll just describe myself to others as a man and live as a man. It’s easier.

Advantage: this identity avoids any difficult conversations with friends, family and colleagues. You look like a man…and you are a man…and all your essence of womanhood lies buried within and nobody sees it. This identity is also logistically convenient as it involves no life changes, surgeries or wardrobe revolutions.

Disadvantage: obviously, this would also disqualify you from working for me. Furthermore, it might lead to the tepid, creeping depression that seems to comes with gender suppression.

Part 3 – Should I transition?

I had no idea when I created this program there would be so much variance in student motivation. Some are interested in the final job, some are transgender girls looking for feminization, and some are just sissies doing what sissies do: fiddling with themselves!

There comes a point, though, where we need to get down to business and discover – without prejudice – who’s actually interested in True Feminization?

And, if you’re serious about working as a call-girl then obviously you have to transition.

So, let’s deal with my question first, and then I want you to do the test on Novagirl. Submit your answers by the usual method.

Assignment 12…

File your final progress report and send me an e-mail confirming it’s been sent (sometimes these forms go directly to spam.) Ask me the question…

…what now, Mistress?

This informs me of your answers to all the big questions on this page, as well as both recording your progress and fixing in your mind what you still need to work on. Click on the image below.